Butler Shaffer (in 2015)

I have a difficult time grasping the thinking of anyone who believes that his or her relationships with others should be subject to the approval of the state. The idea that state officials should endorse one’s choice of a marriage partner recalls the earlier practice of a young man asking a father for the “hand” of a young woman. That practice seemed to die off a good half-century ago, when it became evident that the ritual was premised on the father having a property interest in his daughter which, during an upcoming wedding ceremony, he would “give away.” When gays and lesbians call upon the state to approve marriages, are they doing anything more than substituting the state for the father in this arrangement?